Fantasies of a Married Woman

someones gona cry when they find they've lost her someones gona thank the stars above
Excerpt from Fantasies of a Married Woman I couldnt believe that I was actually lying here with Jake again. I thought all I had left were memories. His smell overwhelmed me as I nuzzled my nose into his neck. The radio played the country melody Love has no right by Billy Joe Royal. You hand was shaking, my heart was breaking for that lonely night we said good bye. I knew it was over when you touched my shoulder and I saw that tear drop fall from your eye. Love has no right to let us fall then break our heart. Love has no right to push us together than pull us apart. The melody filled the air as if it had planned the moment. Love has no right. I felt the words escape my lips before I could stop them. If you need me Faith, I will always be there. Plane, train or bicycle. Jake said as he kissed my face and caressed my breast with his gentle hands. His eyes filled with tears and he lowered his lips over mine. Time stood still as we explored each others body with an urgency and fear of never again. Jake slowly lifted the covers and disappeared. Dont stop me Faith. He begged as he refused my hesitance. I need to taste your taste and smell your smell. I have it memorized and the memory of that alone has given me the strength to wait till you came back to where you belong. I surrendered heart and soul, swept away into the ecstasy of his touch. We dove into an ocean of waves splashing into the sea. Until the waves over came us and we drowned in its healing waters. The moon light shone into the room flooding it with an aura of a dream. The windows were open wide and the breeze was gently blowing the curtains about. I could hear the chimes as they swayed in the gentle currents of the warm air. My head was spinning as I tried hard to take it all in, like a movie, so I could play it back in my head. Then I could be here in my mind when ever I wanted. Just like my wonderful cottage on a hill that I had written about. Imagine, and I did. You will always be an angel in my eyes. Jake promised as we closed our eyes and drifted of into blissful sleep. I awoke before Jake. The sun was just coming up over the lake. The birds were singing and It looked as if it would be a gorgeous day. Some how I wished it would rain. I showered and made coffee. I sat the table out on the terrace with the same fine china he had first served me with, that wonderful breakfast, the first time we had made love. I placed the bottle of champagne in the ice bucket and poured fresh orange juice into the pitcher remembering to remove the pulp. I waited to prepare the eggs benedict until I heard Jake in the shower. Perfect timing I thought as I took the fresh cut flowers that Jake and I had picked and placed them on the table. I wanted us to remember the last time the same as the first. I havent felt like this in God knows how long. Jake said as he kissed me good morning. Please Faith dont go. Jake said with a sad look. Sorry I didnt mean to bum out your wonderful breakfast plans. I promise I want say anything else. He said as he poured our champagne and orange juice. Here is to you, me, babe and this wonderful cottage on a hill. I laughed raising my glass to toast as I held back the tears.

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Do you want to write a good personal ad?ajay pats

This article briefly summerizes how to write good personal ad.
If you are going to invest time or money in using a matchmaking website, you should really pay some attention to writing a profile that will get you some responses. People will not be interested in emailing you if you do not do something to make yourself stand out from the masses of people using personal ads. I administer several dating websites. People frequently write in saying, I never get any replies to my ad. And when I go look at the ad, I find that they have not filled out the profile, or added a photo. Who can tell if they want to email you if there is no information? Not quite as bad, but still ineffective, is a profile that says, Email me for details or looking for a nice person. You can't bother to write a paragraph to find the love of your life? Or even a fun date for the weekend? Here are some guidelines for writing effective personal ad blurbs: INVESTMENT. Decide that this is worth spending some time on, or don't bother. You wouldn't submit a sloppy resume, would you? This is about making a good first impression, because there will be no second chance once someone clicks to the next ad. MARKETING. You are marketing yourself... trying to stand out in a crowd. You are the product. and the people you want to meet are your customers. Think about who you want to meet, and then think about who THEY want to meet! How can you tell them that YOU are the person they want to meet? Magazine ads, for example, grab your attention, make you laugh, they make you think wow, what a great thing... I want to buy it. They can be short, but pack a punch. If they are long, they tell a good story. Marketers test their different ad campaigns, and you should, too. Try placing different ads to see what gets you a better result. PREPARATION. Before you log in anywhere, do some thinking and writing. Don't wait until you are faced with a blinking cursor to write your blurb. Give serious thought to how you will describe yourself and the person you hope to find. Write at least two paragraphs, one about yourself, and one about the person you seek. Ask someone you trust to read those paragraphs and comment on how well they reflect who you are and what you want. Save that text to cut and paste into dating website forms. Have a digital photo or two ready. OPENING LINES. Use your username... don't be Bob3456... be PaintBallPrincess or SecretSuperHero or something else that reflects your sense of humor and yourself. If the ad allows you a subject line also use that well... Need woman in Atlanta doesn't cut it. Atlanta man on a mission sounds more interesting. Atlanta Knight seeks his Queen tells a different story about who you are seeking. Use your username and subject line to hook people into your ad. Use humor, drama, a funky metaphor. Then, like any good ad, you want to show them you are what they need, show them why you are unique, and invite them to take action... by emailing you! DETAILS. Write in complete sentences. Spelling and grammar DO count. We have modern tools to help with that. You want to look like you find this task important enough to spell out the words. Unless you are 15 years old, writing If u r inrested n me, wrt 2 me makes you LOOK 15 years old. ALL CAPS IS LIKE SHOUTING... don't. It is actually harder to read. HONESTY. If you are not honest with yourself and others, you will not find happiness in the personals. Are you married? You know, people CAN figure that out and will resent the lie more than the wedding ring. Without making any value judgements, putting down married will not necessarily stop you from finding matches. If you are just looking for a casual date, don't imply that you are looking for marriage just to get more email... it wastes everyone's time. If you are looking for a long-term thing, don't think you can convince a casual date to spend more time with you. You are asking for disappointment. Try completing this sentence: In a year, I'd like to see us doing.... STRINGS. Guys, I see many you making a crucial mistake in your profiles. You will find that women are seldom looking for a o strings relationship. There simply is no such thing... if it is a relationship, it has strings of SOME sort. If you don't want strings, you are looking for an escort service. Women of any description can find casual physical relationships without lifting a finger to a keyboard. Don't lie, but think about which strings are okay with you. Seeking Torrid Summer Romance is fine and honest. So is, I am not eager to move in or get married. I want to have a regular date for parties and cookouts with my friends. Ladies, this counts for you, too. If your personal ad sounds like you might be offering paid sexual services, you are going to get some rude offers. You might avoid phrases like, looking for a wealthy man with good taste in jewelry. BEYOND PHYSICAL. Have you ever really dated someone just for their eye color? OK, maybe you have spectacular eyeballs. But ads tend to reel off personal stats... and then stop there, as though there were nothing but a body. Most personal sites let you click things to describe your eyes, hair, and height... don't waste valuable profile space on your hair. Talk about who you are first, and what you look like at the end. Want to know the number one thing surveyed women look for in a guy? A sense of humor. AVOID NEGATIVES. This is not the place to list all the things that drove you crazy about your ex and how you won't put up with that again. Don't list what you don't want... discuss what you DO want. Turn your own lifestyle quirks into positives, not obstacles. Workaholic? Try, My career keeps me very busy, so I need someone with a flexible schedule for spontaneous one-day adventures. Frugal to a fault? Try I find it amusing to squeeze a nickel 'til it screams... help me research for my web column CheapDates for CheapSkates. Worried people will regard your children as an obstacle? My family is very important to me and I hope to find someone that will enjoy the attention of a warm family circle. POST A PHOTO. Website statistics show that an ad with a photo is 80% more likely to get a response. A photo that shows you relaxed and having fun, no matter what you look like, is even better. Don't use a photo that isn't current.. it isn't worth looking so insecure, or being rejected later. Don't rush to ask for a photo... you may look like a pic trader, someone who is collecting photos rather than looking for a real date. Don't stress about your looks... attraction is about more than looks. Yes, we often are first attracted to someone by looks, when we meet in person. But on the Internet, if you seem like a jerk, you won't get the chance to meet in person. LIFE STAGES. People often say that age is not as important as life stage. Where are you in your life? Just starting out in a new career? Settled into life with kids? Empty-nesting? Exploring new interests? These are things that matter. Talk about what is important in your life. I am established in my career and now turning my attention to the great books I never had time to read. I moved to this state for a job after college, and I am looking for dates with a lot of outdoors-loving friends to help me build a sporty new social circle. FAVORITE THINGS. Listing ALL your favorite things is dizzying.. Choose one good example and talk about why you like it. Choose something that gives the reader an insight into what you enjoy. You want people to be able to spot things you have in common, but also feel that there is something new and interesting to learn about you. Interest them in learning more with a easer about something fascinating about you. Ask a question for them to answer in the reply email. RULES. Never... NEVER include your last name, phone number or address. Observe the rules of the various websites... some do not allow you to post web addresses or email addresses. Many prohibit crude language or sexual references. Getting your ad removed by breaking rules is a waste of time. So... let your personality be shown in a tasteful way, take the time to do a good job, and have a good photo. Those things alone will put you far ahead of the misspelled anonymous pack.Visit http://venturemall.tripod.com/winbidbuy/id27.html for dating and articles.

About the Author

Ajay Patole is a qualified management professional working as sales manager and runs a site 'Venturemall',a cool hangout to play money games,buy and sell in auctions,date and photochat.It is available at URL http://venturemall.tripod.com and newsletter to rediscover true colors of life at http://www.topica.com/lists/venturemall.Also he runs a community 'Venturecon', for entrepreneurs which is available at URL http://groups.msn.com/venturecon.

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Analyzing Condo Hotel

Condo Hotels are merging the Hospitality business with residential second home/investment property desires of consumers. Most condo hotels appear more like a hotel room than a traditional condominium, with less than 600 square feet and often without kitchens. So are these investment properties or second homes. Or are they a little bit of both?

Legitimate concerns surround some condo hotel developers selling units in their projects based solely on the 'forward looking investment potential'. If developers were left unchecked, with a pile of spreadsheets touting income potential, every condo hotel unit in the country might cash flow at remarkable levels, on paper, and every small real estate investor would have a PhD in condo hotel lingo. This is the fear.

I believe we are not giving the consumer enough credit, but I understand the fear. ADR, Occupancy, RevPar, the language of the hospitality industry can appear sexy at first glance. Nightly rates, rack rates and Average Daily Rate (ADR) can vary widely. Occupancy at a hotel has so many variables. Hotel management is one part science, and one part art, but it is all business. Real estate salepeople and developers are not licensed to sell business interests and this is the crux of the dilemna.

SEC rules require that securities or business interests are sold with complete and proper disclosure, but disclosure is such a slippery slope. Afterall so many other real estate properties are sold for their investment potential, like apartment buildings and warehouses, why are condo hotels treated more conservatively?

Consumers, while on vacation, buy condo hotel, not savvy seasoned investors.

Consumers who look to purchase a condo hotel, are told to consider it just as simple real estate. To attempt to ignore the rental income potential and make their purchase more like a second home or vacation residence. But the income potential is still a large part of the decision. When the consumer is told by the real estate sales representation that they cannot in any way discuss income or income potential, time and again the consumer feels something is being withheld. I have witnessed as the potential condo hotel buyer asks why?

The consumer deserves an open dialog about risks and rewards in condo hotel ownership. Attempts are being made to create a firewall between real estate sales and hotel rental management departments but it is still disjointed and spooks consumers trying to understand their purchase decisions.

As CPAs, financial advisors, bankers and other trusted consultants better understand this new real estate product, its potential and risks the gap in the information for the consumer can be bridged.

Bob Waun CEO Vacation Finance waun@vacation-finance.com

Vacation Finance, America's First Second Home Lender is an innovator in condo hotel mortgage lending and has been a leader in educating consumers and developers in the risks and rewards of this new product. Vacation Finance also offers a full line of mortgage products for fractional, true condo hotel, non-warrantable condos, vacation land and timeshare.

Bob Waun has 18 years experience in mortgage banking . Bob pioneered condo hotel mortgage lending. He holds an MI real estate broker license , and a Master?s degree in finance/economics and BBA in finance from Walsh College. He has personally lent over $700 million in residential loans, and overseen operations lending $1+billion. He has been a professional guest speaker and taught numerous courses and seminars on real estate finance. Since 2002, Bob has worked with condo hotel developers and lenders to improve the market for condo hotel financing. He has reviewed over 75+ projects and has been nationally recognized as an expert in vacation ownership finance. Bob is a Board member of The National Association of Condo Hotel Owners and Chairman League Member of American Resort Developers Association.

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The Essence of Boxing

While there are innumerable ways to go after this subject, mine will take a more confluent, albeit less technical path that has different directions coming together in a way that hopefully exposes my visceral affection for this very wonderful pastime. Indeed, for me, boxing is far more than a bout between two combatants in a square circle that is entered with knowledge of deadly risk and anticipation of high reward. Boxing is an experience that includes many different things including the wherewithal for passionate arguments and the witnessing of two men going mano a mano with the hope, but no guarantee, that the third man in the ring knows when the right time comes to save one of them.....and sometimes, with tragic results, he doesn't. Boxing is a loser alone with his thoughts in the dressing room and a winner being hero worshiped by fans as fickle as the weather. It is defeat or victory, nothing more, nothing less, but the difference can break a spirit or generate confidence. In the words of former boxer Iceman John Scully, The wait in the dressing room before a professional boxing match -that last hour- could be enough to strip a man that never boxed before of whatever pride, desire and heart he THOUGHT he had (April 2002)

For some, it is a left hook to the liver the genesis of which began in Culiacan, Mexico. For others, a sledgehammer straight right originating out of Detroit. Or, in a fight for redemption, a Swede's foot twitching after he is knocked cold by a leaping left hook coming from the Catskills. For me, it's identifying with one of my favorites, particularly an underdog, as he overcomes adversity to snatch surprising victory from certain anticipated defeat. When that happens, that's me in the ring and when victory comes, its my victory as much as it is his and I'm cheering for myself as much as for him. I can't say it any better than that....that's the essence, the very soul of this thing called boxing. Boxing and I become one at that point.

Boxing is also Big Jerry Cooney catching Ken Norton is a corner and pummeling him with frightening left hooks, Ray Mercer catching Tommy Morrison with brutal punches rendering him senseless, Gatti knocking out Gamache with left hook from hell, and Oleg coming back from three ko losses, but it's also slick boxers named Sugar Ray or Sugar Shane showing new and higher levels of defense, foot work, combinations, and hand speed. Boxing is watching a Ward left hook to the body end a fight at any time and a Pretty Boy seemingly work magic tricks in a ring with art and finesse. It's is watching the Kids.....Parret, Gavilan, Akeem and the Rocks......Durando, Graziano, Marciano and Rahman. Boxing is all about Hearns vs Hagler in savage and unmitigated action and Castillo vs Corrales and Indian Yaqui vs Saad in quintessential ebb and flow.....it's steamy Philadelphia gyms and the forum in LA or some fair grounds in West Virginia or Ohio. It's Don Dunphy thrilling listeners to the Gillette Cavalcade of Sports, and it's both Lennon's, Johnny Addi, Buffer, Ed Derian, Mercante, Clancy, Cus, Manny, Dundee, Bimstein, Goldstein, Futch and it's PAL, CYO, and AAU. The sport is both tender and brutal. Some find Jesus, others find the devil. Boxing is watching a lonely Larry Holmes in the middle of the ring taking out a a popular Cooney and a confused John Tate running away from a Trevor Berbick..................boxing is about a warrior mentality that unmistakably demonstrates a willingness to engage in a punch-out.......a willingness to take three to get in one or a hard and tough guy patting his chest and waiving the other guy in as he spits out blood while the crowd rises and roars its approval and chills go down your spine. Boxing is the sum and substance of indelible memories and for those blessed with good recall, it is something to manifest with emotion, passion and conviction.

Look, I've been there and have seen up close the unpredictable excitement that was Bob Satterfield and Johnny Bratton in the 50's, the classics between Marciano-Charles-Louis- Walcott. The emergence of Chuck Davey and Chico Vejar. I saw LaMotta-Robinson, Ward vs Gatti-Green-Augustus-Diaz, Zale-Graziano, tough, ethnic guys from the 50's like Fusari, Demarco, Durando, Basilio, Janiro and Miceli. Who can forget Gene Silent Hairston on Gillette's Friday night fights? Ali-Fraizer, Patterson-Johansson, Barrera-Morales. I was dumfounded by the illogic of Hearns putting Duran away with a paralyzing straight right, and then Duran beating Barkley who then knocked out Hearns. I watched in disbelief as Martin starched Liston, Bruce Curry and Monroe Brooks went to the edge, McClellan and Benn fought with uncommon fury. Oh, I saw Paret take 17 unanswered shots, and Roach, Kim, Johnny Owens, Jimmy Garcia, Beethoven Scottland. Leavander Johnson and too may others leave their lives in the ring. I witnessed the sudden fury of Mesa-Garza; the shoot outs between Moorer-Cooper and Lyle-Foreman;the big bopping round-robin between Cobb-Shavers-Norton at the end of their careers. I've seen the smashed noses, ridges of scar tissue and deformed ears. I witnessed the slow slide of Jerry and Mike Quarry, Jimmy Ellis, Bobby Chacon, Jimmy Young and far too many others. I can easily detect the early signs......the slurring of speech......the nasal monotone. I can also detect, but not quite so easily, signs of short-term memory loss or difficulty with equilibrium or the inability to take certain directions or perform certain chores. No, we don't much want to talk about Pugilistica Dementia but constant reminders are always there and that's the dark side, the other, horribly irreversible side of the risk reward equation. And most boxers are leery of this darker side as well they should be, for this is the one that can lead to that dreaded place called Palookaville from which there is no return.

Hey, I witnessed the epiphany of Foreman and thewhat if, and terrible disappointment that was Tyson. I've seen it all and have been dazzled by the magic, felt the emotional highs, heard the music and seen the dance. I pray for Michael Watson, Willie Pep. Jimmy Ellis, Gerald McClellan and Greg Page and remember the courage of Robert Wangila and Pedro Alcazar. I have seen very good things, some not so good, and some downright ugly. I've talked to humble and decent guys like Saad, Haugen, Scully, Ward, Cuevas, Laporte, Galaxy and Chuvalo and have been snubbed by others.....but not many others, for most boxers are uncommon in their decency, respect and humility and that too is part of the mix.

Boxing for me is also a sensual confluence......of sweat, fear, testosterone, perfume, cigar smoke, stale beer, cheap after-shave lotion....it is a the sweet smell of success and sour odor of failure. Greasy and heavily mustard hot dogs, cheese steak hoagies, onions, buttered popcorn and warm beer at the Blue Horizon and frothy mixed drinks and expensive after shave lotion at the MGM in Las Vegas or at Foxwoods. Boxing is cheering, taunting, chanting, whistling, screaming, and clapping......and leering at scantily clad card girls against a backdrop of the periodic screams of winners at a Black Jack table or the mindless and never ending sound of slot machines simultaneously providing hope and presenting odds that will prevents that hope from ever being fulfilled. The ambience includes pretty blondes, voluptuous Latinos and beautiful black women dressed to the nines; guys with chains worth the price of a new car and clothes and hair styles to match. Vanity, conceit, egotism are words that come to mind as one looks over the occupants of the ringside seats, but why not? Narcissism is an essential part of this mix as well.

There is no political correctness here or ight way to behave and that is another great thing about boxing. You either love it or hate it, but if you hate it, you had best tread with caution here. Boxing try's to be color blind, but those behind the scenes use issues of color and ethnicity to generate more cash. It is never about hate; it is always about cash....it is what it is....and in this regard should not be taken as seriously as it is. The Russians Have Arrived, will likely be replaced by something else, maybe 'The Cubans Are Coming or the Americans are Back or Here Comes the British, but that's just the way it is and it won't change any time soon.

Boxing is camaraderie with macho banter and, at times, not-so-friendly betting. It is drinks and maybe a great steak after the fight, or perhaps a hotel room with TV, friends, champaign, shrimp cocktails, maybe some poker, all the right ingredients for another indelible memory. Sure, the fight is the linchpin, but the entire experience is often just as much fun...it all goes together and blends in the mix. And the mix is the essence.

Boxing has a love affair with the world: from Japan to the UK, Germany to Australia, Canada to the countries from the former Soviet Union, and everywhere in between. Most of all, boxing is a safe place for me to be without having to worry about how I behave or what I say. Boxing thankfully is not a meeting of the Rotary and it certainly does not shackle me with corporate handcuffs. There is no phoney artifice, no plastic smiles or soft and clammy hand shakes; Boxing is a genuine, if sometimes harsh place. But hell, boxing is my sanctuary and I love it so.

It is wonderful. It truly is. It is the only thing that is real! It's you against me, it's challenging another guy's manhood. With gloves. Words cannot describe that feeling - of being a man, of being a gladiator, of being a warrior. It's irreplaceable. - Sugar Ray Leonard

Boxing survives ? and always will -- because its values are as old school as black-?n?-white trunks: character and pain -- as heroic as a man taking care of his family ? just not too sexy. Joe Rein

Ted Sares, PhD, is a private investor and entrepreneur who lives and writes in the beautiful and secluded White Mountain area of Northern New Hampshire with his wife, Holly and Min Pin, Jackdog. He writes a bi-weekly column for a local newspaper and is a regular contributor to the NH Business Review. He specializes in columns, articles, essays, op-eds, and short stories. Many of his works are widely published.

His works focus on issues and themes dealing with socio-political topics, business and economics (in which he advocates a free market approach to capitalism), patriotism, and matters dealing with individual freedom.They are frequently inspirational in nature and sometimes reflect the Objectivist philosophy of novelist and philosopher Ayn Rand. Ted is also a boxing historian and a member of the Boxing Writers Association of America.

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Tips for Writing a Successful Personal Online Dating Profile

Tips for Creating a Successful Personal Online Dating Profile

Your profile is the key to meeting your perfect match at online dating and personals services so its surprising that many profiles are mediocre at best. With a little extra time, thought and effort, and the help of these tips, you can make yours a winner and attract a large pool of admirers to take your pick from.

Invent a distinctive username:

Your username (nickname) is the first hint at what kind of person you are. It needs to be original and memorable, while somehow summing you up - not easy in a dozen letters or so!

For ideas, think about your interests, background, location and personality. For instance, an outgoing person from Phoenix might choose PhoenixSparkler, an avid skier with a wild streak might be SnowTiger. Humors great (I recently spotted MissBehaving) but overly sentimental (LetMeBeTheOne), meaningless (Vyc2DX) or desperate sounding (SoLonelyInOhio) names are a turn off.

Give yourself time: think of a name before sitting down to complete your profile, as well as a couple of backup options. Its amazing how many original names are in use already. Most services spit out alternatives but theyre usually unimaginative and full of numbers.

Write a compelling headline:

Your opening line, or headline, is like the first thing you see on an ad: it should compel people to read on and find out more about you. Dont be apologetic about being there - I dont normally do this sort of thing - and dont begin (as thousands do) with My names Bob, Im 25 and live in Boise. This isnt compelling. Its not even interesting. Born in Boise, Heading for Barbados is more the thing. Its intriguing without being confusing, and raises questions: is Bob a traveler, a dreamer or working for an international company? Only one way to find out read on!

Again, its not easy. If you get stuck, a favorite line from a song, book or movie can say lot about you who you like and/or what you believe in - and stands out to other people who love it too.

Post at least one photo:

For 75% of online daters, the photo is the first thing they look for when browsing through profiles. Not surprisingly, profiles with photos get ten to fifteen times the response of those without. Including a photo is a must! But beware, some photos do more harm than good. Big offenders are photos that show you with someone else, or even worse, part of someone else. (It might not be your ex, or your exs body part, but people have no way of knowing.)

If you dont have a suitable photo, get one taken, and keep it real - glamour shots could come back to haunt you. Think about asking a friend to pick out a photo that they think looks most like you. Make sure people dont have to squint at the screen to see what you look like, and be sure to smile!

Check the right boxes:

Most profiles have a hefty component of check boxes age group, sex, and so on. Its a basic thing but when researching sites I do it a lot myself: check the wrong boxes or forget to change them from a default setting that isnt right for me. And Im not alone. Believe it or not, a common mistake among online daters is choosing the wrong sex of their ideal partner. So, take care over these basic but important details.

Check your grammar and spelling:

You might be the most intelligent person on the planet but if you rush your profile and dont check your spelling and grammar youre not going to come across well to anyone who values intelligence. You might like to prepare your freestyle entries using a program with spelling and grammar checkers, then paste them into your profile.

Avoid clichs:

Unfortunately, a lot of people say the same thing in the same way as everyone else. Its boring at best and unbelievable at worst. Can we really believe that so many people exercise regularly and keep in good shape? Also, use a thesaurus to replace well-worn words like good and nice with more interesting, meaningful alternatives that add spice and sparkle to your profile.

Make your meaning clear:

Your spelling and grammar might be perfect but sometimes your words can convey a completely different meaning from what you intended. Give your profile a thorough reading to avoid potentially embarrassing or damaging misinterpretations!

Stick to your own style:

Many online dating profiles include sections where you can express yourself in your own words. Its a chance to make yourself more human and real, and other members can pick up lots of interesting information about you clues they might find appealing - from the way you express yourself. Dont block the process by suddenly adopting a style and tone that isnt really you.

Focus on your unique qualities:

Its our unique qualities that make us attractive - and to some, very attractive! When you have a chance to describe yourself, let these qualities shine. Skip the things that people take for granted (and have in common) and focus on the things that make you, you.

Perhaps you speak another language, have an unusual skill or interest, or something you feel passionately about. Small things count too. If you change your hair color every other day or have an addiction to triple hot chili sauce, say so. People who share or appreciate your unique qualities will tune right in and they make great conversation starters if they decide to make a move!

Flatter yourself its allowed!:

If youre good at something or proud of yourself for something, go ahead and blow your own trumpet. Confidence (not to be confused with a raging ego!) is an attractive quality and there are plenty of ways to flatter yourself while sounding modest: My friends say Im or, If I had to describe one thing about myself that I like

Be honest:

Many people cant resist the urge to be less than completely honest when writing their online personals profile. Women tend to lie about their appearance and men about their status and physical prowess. Theres really no need. Online dating and personals services have thousands if not millions of members. Youve got a great chance of meeting someone whos attracted to the real you, warts and all. Of course, theres no need to tell your darkest secrets just keep it real. Youll be able to pursue relationships without having to worry about all the lies youve spun. Honesty is an attractive trait.

Be passionate about your passions:

If you have a hobby or interest that youre absolutely passionate about, that takes up a lot of your time and energy, go ahead and rave about it. Its better that people know up front how important it is to you, and fellow fanatics will tune right in!

Be careful with humor:

Humors great but a super-dry or tongue-in-cheek sense of humor may not work well in writing. People dont know you and cant see the twinkle in your eye. Youll have ample opportunity to display your brand of wit when youre communicating one-on-one with other members.

Say it with feeling:

Too many profiles read like a job application with flat phrases like, I enjoy skiing, cooking and photography which dont really tell us much. Add emotions, thoughts and feelings into the mix. The idea is to showcase your personality and make a connection on an emotional level.

Be positive:

Our bugbears say something about the type of person we are but keep them to a minimum in your profile or theyll say something bad! Focus on the things that make you feel good and you'll come across as a fun date.

Dont dwell on past relationships:

Too much talk of past relationships is a sure way to scare off potential dates. It doesnt show much commitment to moving along in life with someone new. However, some services touch on the subject in their profiles in which case you can give it a more interesting, positive twist by talking in general terms about lessons learned, where you are today and what your hopes are for future relationships.

Describe your ideal match in your own words:

If you have an opportunity to describe the type of person youre looking to meet in your own words, use it. If someone reads your profile and likes you, theyll know right away whether or not theyre a likely candidate for your affections. On the other hand, dont be too picky or demanding! One idea is to limit yourself to the three or four attributes that you value most in a partner and perhaps one big turn off (you want to keep it positive overall).

Describe the kind of dates you enjoy:

Make it easy for people to ask you on a date by giving them an idea of the kind of dates you enjoy. For instance, I like a relaxing atmosphere where you can chat and get to know someone, or, Doing something new and exciting together is a great way to get to know someone.

Promote yourself as a great date:

When someone likes what they read in your profile, theyll probably wonder what kind of date youd make. In other words, you seem interesting and attractive but would you be the date from hell? Put this question to rest with upfront information that paints a great picture of what it would be like to date you. For instance, perhaps youre a good listener who likes a quiet, relaxing atmosphere where you can talk and get to know someone, or a sociable energetic type who thinks that doing something new and exciting together is the best way to get to know someone.

When your admirers know youre on the same page in terms of dating style, theyre more likely to take the next step and ask you out, or at least to get to know you better, confident youll be a great date. And if your dating styles are completely out of tune, at least youve avoided finding it out the hard way - on that date from hell.

Create a Master Profile:

Save all your profile information and entries in a master file so you dont have to start from scratch if youre planning on using more than one service. Profiles vary considerably from service to service but many parts will be similar.

Make Changes:

Last but not least, dont forget that your profile isnt written in stone! Its fast and easy to make any changes you like, so dont fret too much about perfection!

Copyright 2004 Caroline Mackenzie

Your profile is the key to meeting your perfect match at online dating and personals services so its surprising that many profiles are mediocre at best. With a little extra time, thought and effort, and the help of these tips, you can make yours a winner and attract a large pool of admirers to take your pick from.

Invent a distinctive username:

Your username (nickname) is the first hint at what kind of person you are. It needs to be original and memorable, while somehow summing you up - not easy in a dozen letters or so!

For ideas, think about your interests, background, location and personality. For instance, an outgoing person from Phoenix might choose PhoenixSparkler, an avid skier with a wild streak might be SnowTiger. Humors great (I recently spotted MissBehaving) but overly sentimental (LetMeBeTheOne), meaningless (Vyc2DX) or desperate sounding (SoLonelyInOhio) names are a turn off.

Give yourself time: think of a name before sitting down to complete your profile, as well as a couple of backup options. Its amazing how many original names are in use already. Most services spit out alternatives but theyre usually unimaginative and full of numbers.

Write a compelling headline:

Your opening line, or headline, is like the first thing you see on an ad: it should compel people to read on and find out more about you. Dont be apologetic about being there - I dont normally do this sort of thing - and dont begin (as thousands do) with My names Bob, Im 25 and live in Boise. This isnt compelling. Its not even interesting. Born in Boise, Heading for Barbados is more the thing. Its intriguing without being confusing, and raises questions: is Bob a traveler, a dreamer or working for an international company? Only one way to find out read on!

Again, its not easy. If you get stuck, a favorite line from a song, book or movie can say lot about you who you like and/or what you believe in - and stands out to other people who love it too.

Post at least one photo:

For 75% of online daters, the photo is the first thing they look for when browsing through profiles. Not surprisingly, profiles with photos get ten to fifteen times the response of those without. Including a photo is a must! But beware, some photos do more harm than good. Big offenders are photos that show you with someone else, or even worse, part of someone else. (It might not be your ex, or your exs body part, but people have no way of knowing.)

If you dont have a suitable photo, get one taken, and keep it real - glamour shots could come back to haunt you. Think about asking a friend to pick out a photo that they think looks most like you. Make sure people dont have to squint at the screen to see what you look like, and be sure to smile!

Check the right boxes:

Most profiles have a hefty component of check boxes age group, sex, and so on. Its a basic thing but when researching sites I do it a lot myself: check the wrong boxes or forget to change them from a default setting that isnt right for me. And Im not alone. Believe it or not, a common mistake among online daters is choosing the wrong sex of their ideal partner. So, take care over these basic but important details.

Check your grammar and spelling:

You might be the most intelligent person on the planet but if you rush your profile and dont check your spelling and grammar youre not going to come across well to anyone who values intelligence. You might like to prepare your freestyle entries using a program with spelling and grammar checkers, then paste them into your profile.

Avoid clichs:

Unfortunately, a lot of people say the same thing in the same way as everyone else. Its boring at best and unbelievable at worst. Can we really believe that so many people exercise regularly and keep in good shape? Also, use a thesaurus to replace well-worn words like good and nice with more interesting, meaningful alternatives that add spice and sparkle to your profile.

Make your meaning clear:

Your spelling and grammar might be perfect but sometimes your words can convey a completely different meaning from what you intended. Give your profile a thorough reading to avoid potentially embarrassing or damaging misinterpretations!

Stick to your own style:

Many online dating profiles include sections where you can express yourself in your own words. Its a chance to make yourself more human and real, and other members can pick up lots of interesting information about you clues they might find appealing - from the way you express yourself. Dont block the process by suddenly adopting a style and tone that isnt really you.

Focus on your unique qualities:

Its our unique qualities that make us attractive - and to some, very attractive! When you have a chance to describe yourself, let these qualities shine. Skip the things that people take for granted (and have in common) and focus on the things that make you, you.

Perhaps you speak another language, have an unusual skill or interest, or something you feel passionately about. Small things count too. If you change your hair color every other day or have an addiction to triple hot chili sauce, say so. People who share or appreciate your unique qualities will tune right in and they make great conversation starters if they decide to make a move!

Flatter yourself its allowed!:

If youre good at something or proud of yourself for something, go ahead and blow your own trumpet. Confidence (not to be confused with a raging ego!) is an attractive quality and there are plenty of ways to flatter yourself while sounding modest: My friends say Im or, If I had to describe one thing about myself that I like

Be honest:

Many people cant resist the urge to be less than completely honest when writing their online personals profile. Women tend to lie about their appearance and men about their status and physical prowess. Theres really no need. Online dating and personals services have thousands if not millions of members. Youve got a great chance of meeting someone whos attracted to the real you, warts and all. Of course, theres no need to tell your darkest secrets just keep it real. Youll be able to pursue relationships without having to worry about all the lies youve spun. Honesty is an attractive trait.

Be passionate about your passions:

If you have a hobby or interest that youre absolutely passionate about, that takes up a lot of your time and energy, go ahead and rave about it. Its better that people know up front how important it is to you, and fellow fanatics will tune right in!

Be careful with humor:

Humors great but a super-dry or tongue-in-cheek sense of humor may not work well in writing. People dont know you and cant see the twinkle in your eye. Youll have ample opportunity to display your brand of wit when youre communicating one-on-one with other members.

Say it with feeling:

Too many profiles read like a job application with flat phrases like, I enjoy skiing, cooking and photography which dont really tell us much. Add emotions, thoughts and feelings into the mix. The idea is to showcase your personality and make a connection on an emotional level.

Be positive:

Our bugbears say something about the type of person we are but keep them to a minimum in your profile or theyll say something bad! Focus on the things that make you feel good and you'll come across as a fun date.

Dont dwell on past relationships:

Too much talk of past relationships is a sure way to scare off potential dates. It doesnt show much commitment to moving along in life with someone new. However, some services touch on the subject in their profiles in which case you can give it a more interesting, positive twist by talking in general terms about lessons learned, where you are today and what your hopes are for future relationships.

Describe your ideal match in your own words:

If you have an opportunity to describe the type of person youre looking to meet in your own words, use it. If someone reads your profile and likes you, theyll know right away whether or not theyre a likely candidate for your affections. On the other hand, dont be too picky or demanding! One idea is to limit yourself to the three or four attributes that you value most in a partner and perhaps one big turn off (you want to keep it positive overall).

Describe the kind of dates you enjoy:

Make it easy for people to ask you on a date by giving them an idea of the kind of dates you enjoy. For instance, I like a relaxing atmosphere where you can chat and get to know someone, or, Doing something new and exciting together is a great way to get to know someone.

Promote yourself as a great date:

When someone likes what they read in your profile, theyll probably wonder what kind of date youd make. In other words, you seem interesting and attractive but would you be the date from hell? Put this question to rest with upfront information that paints a great picture of what it would be like to date you. For instance, perhaps youre a good listener who likes a quiet, relaxing atmosphere where you can talk and get to know someone, or a sociable energetic type who thinks that doing something new and exciting together is the best way to get to know someone.

When your admirers know youre on the same page in terms of dating style, theyre more likely to take the next step and ask you out, or at least to get to know you better, confident youll be a great date. And if your dating styles are completely out of tune, at least youve avoided finding it out the hard way - on that date from hell.

Create a Master Profile:

Save all your profile information and entries in a master file so you dont have to start from scratch if youre planning on using more than one service. Profiles vary considerably from service to service but many parts will be similar.

Make Changes:

Last but not least, dont forget that your profile isnt written in stone! Its fast and easy to make any changes you like, so dont fret too much about perfection!

Copyright 2004 Caroline Mackenzie

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Caroline Mackenzie is Co-Owner/Webmaster of The Dating Muse, a guide to online dating services and personals featuring reviews of the top online dating sites plus tips and ideas for finding friends, dates, soulmates and sexual adventure online. You can visit her site at http://DatingMuse.com and subscribe to her newsletter at http://datingmuse.com/subscribe.htm

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This trend continued along into the 1970’s with the Dorothy Hamill cut that everyone seemed to copy. Even today, with the hairstyles varied, this style continues to be popular. 1960s Bob Hair Style Updated for 2006 The bob hair cuts of today are simply variations of the look created in the 1920’s. Four decades ago, Maurice Tidy worked with Vidal Sassoon in London popularizing the 1960s bob hair style. Now he has revived the bob, pairing it with a new hair wave technique invented by hair icons Jesse & Flo Briggs, called the S Wave Thermal Set? to update the look for the new millennium. To see the photos please visit:http://www.short-hair-style.com/short-bob-hairstyle-for-2006.html With more geometric cuts, these styles are very popular today. Some women still wear the traditional bob cut, while others choose the more popular style, with more angled sides, shorter bangs, or having the bangs longer than the back. These styles are very demanded due to their easy care for today’s working woman. The bob style haircut is here to stay.

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